Amidst all the bills on right to education, food & employment, one right for which no legislation is required is right to reproduce.<\/p>\n
As if it is a birthright: as in right to give birth.<\/p>\n
A pre-requisite right which also is unspoken is right to get married.<\/p>\n
It is taken for granted that everyone deserves to get married & breed.<\/p>\n
Hardly an argument there but must the marriage be delivered on a platter?<\/p>\n
‘Naukri & Chaukri’- ‘Livelihood & Spouse’ are the two fundamental goals that we must be competent to attain.<\/p>\n
They ought not to be arranged by ‘Pitaji’s’ sifarish & ‘Mataji’s’ goodwill.<\/p>\n
These are necessary rites to adulthood for which we get 20+ years to prepare.<\/p>\n
How to woo & court, seduce & mate are as essential to learn as the fourier transforms.<\/p>\n
Otherwise there is no growing up, simply growing old.<\/p>\n
Just as we compete for jobs so we must compete for mates. We got to earn these life rewards not merely have our parents arrange them for us.<\/p>\n
Competition breeds competences and society as a whole benefits by honing the quality of the next generation.<\/p>\n
Not everyone will succeed as not everyone ought to succeed. This is a fundamental realization that we must accept.<\/p>\n
Just as some students will fail in exams, some employees will be fired for incompetence, not every male will be successful in courtship and not every female<\/p>\n
will be able to attract a spouse. As simple as that.<\/p>\n
As it stands, it is far too simple, the bar is too low. If one is unable to secure a spouse in Haryana, one can always buy a bride from Assam.<\/p>\n
It is simply trafficking under the guise of holy institution of marriage.<\/p>\n
The supply as well as demand for such brides & grooms is non stop & plentiful<\/p>\n
What’s worse is that both the bride & groom are products of marriages of convenience and in turn shall breed more candidates.<\/p>\n
Talk about a self-perpetuating system. This is surely one.<\/p>\n
In such a system where ugly, infirm, psycopaths, incompetent, the evolutionary laggards find it so easy to breed,<\/p>\n
the next generation’ qualitative enhancement is severly impeded if not eroded.<\/p>\n
The process of natural selection is simply bypassed. A blatant violation of a natural law in the name of “culture”.
\nSexual urge is natural too and attempts to realise that urge is totally legitimate.<\/p>\n
Must the desire for sexual fulfillment equate getting married.<\/p>\n
Perhaps the Haryanvi would not need to marry the Assamese if an outlet for sexual urge was handy.<\/p>\n
India has the world’s largest number of prostitutes but in the eye of law they are virtually non existent.<\/p>\n
And in the eye of morality, they are repugnant.<\/p>\n
We are okay with sex as an act of procreation but not as an act of recreation.<\/p>\n
Why cant a person who might be aware enough of his or her inability to afford marriage &\/or offspring, cant simply enjoy guilt free sex.<\/p>\n
(S)He would be doing society a big favour.<\/p>\n
By afford, I am not suggesting finances alone, it takes emotional maturity & life understanding to be effective parents.<\/p>\n
So, inadvertently, we encourage child marriages. They might be legally of age but the couple may have only that as a qualification.<\/p>\n
Both enter marriage with little or no maturity emotionally or sexually.<\/p>\n
It is unlikely that they are going to discuss contraception before conssummation.<\/p>\n
Other than condom, all other contraception has to practiced by female.<\/p>\n
If she explores that subject prior to wedding she runs the risk of being viewed as promiscuous.<\/p>\n
Inexperienced male on the wedding night is anxiety ridden to deflower and condom is an unwelcome pullback to prove his manhood.<\/p>\n
I bet the first born in most such marriages is conceived within the first few months of the wedding night.<\/p>\n
Second born is then rationalised to complete family.<\/p>\n
The cycle continues.<\/p>\n
It is well established that the cultures that are liberated in views on sex are now faced with the problem of a negative population growth.<\/p>\n
Governance in such nations is attemtping incentives to breed.<\/p>\n
Governace need in India is exactly the opposite.<\/p>\n
It calls for social engineering, moral relaxation, effective lawmaking.<\/p>\n
Indeed what is needed is a law for Right to Sex.<\/p>\n
Effectively delineating that from right to marry or breed.<\/p>\n
For that the law of nature must prevail.<\/p>\n