Amidst all the bills on right to education, food & employment, one right for which no legislation is required is right to reproduce.
As if it is a birthright: as in right to give birth.
A pre-requisite right which also is unspoken is right to get married.
It is taken for granted that everyone deserves to get married & breed.
Hardly an argument there but must the marriage be delivered on a platter?
‘Naukri & Chaukri’- ‘Livelihood & Spouse’ are the two fundamental goals that we must be competent to attain.
They ought not to be arranged by ‘Pitaji’s’ sifarish & ‘Mataji’s’ goodwill.
These are necessary rites to adulthood for which we get 20+ years to prepare.
How to woo & court, seduce & mate are as essential to learn as the fourier transforms.
Otherwise there is no growing up, simply growing old.
Just as we compete for jobs so we must compete for mates. We got to earn these life rewards not merely have our parents arrange them for us.
Competition breeds competences and society as a whole benefits by honing the quality of the next generation.
Not everyone will succeed as not everyone ought to succeed. This is a fundamental realization that we must accept.
Just as some students will fail in exams, some employees will be fired for incompetence, not every male will be successful in courtship and not every female
will be able to attract a spouse. As simple as that.
As it stands, it is far too simple, the bar is too low. If one is unable to secure a spouse in Haryana, one can always buy a bride from Assam.
It is simply trafficking under the guise of holy institution of marriage.
The supply as well as demand for such brides & grooms is non stop & plentiful
What’s worse is that both the bride & groom are products of marriages of convenience and in turn shall breed more candidates.
Talk about a self-perpetuating system. This is surely one.
In such a system where ugly, infirm, psycopaths, incompetent, the evolutionary laggards find it so easy to breed,
the next generation’ qualitative enhancement is severly impeded if not eroded.
The process of natural selection is simply bypassed. A blatant violation of a natural law in the name of “culture”.
Sexual urge is natural too and attempts to realise that urge is totally legitimate.
Must the desire for sexual fulfillment equate getting married.
Perhaps the Haryanvi would not need to marry the Assamese if an outlet for sexual urge was handy.
India has the world’s largest number of prostitutes but in the eye of law they are virtually non existent.
And in the eye of morality, they are repugnant.
We are okay with sex as an act of procreation but not as an act of recreation.
Why cant a person who might be aware enough of his or her inability to afford marriage &/or offspring, cant simply enjoy guilt free sex.
(S)He would be doing society a big favour.
By afford, I am not suggesting finances alone, it takes emotional maturity & life understanding to be effective parents.
So, inadvertently, we encourage child marriages. They might be legally of age but the couple may have only that as a qualification.
Both enter marriage with little or no maturity emotionally or sexually.
It is unlikely that they are going to discuss contraception before conssummation.
Other than condom, all other contraception has to practiced by female.
If she explores that subject prior to wedding she runs the risk of being viewed as promiscuous.
Inexperienced male on the wedding night is anxiety ridden to deflower and condom is an unwelcome pullback to prove his manhood.
I bet the first born in most such marriages is conceived within the first few months of the wedding night.
Second born is then rationalised to complete family.
The cycle continues.
It is well established that the cultures that are liberated in views on sex are now faced with the problem of a negative population growth.
Governance in such nations is attemtping incentives to breed.
Governace need in India is exactly the opposite.
It calls for social engineering, moral relaxation, effective lawmaking.
Indeed what is needed is a law for Right to Sex.
Effectively delineating that from right to marry or breed.
For that the law of nature must prevail.